Ebooks Do Not Get You Dates

If you try and you don’t succeed, write an ebook about it and pretend you did.

This is the motto of the notorious pick-up artist community. It’s difficult to pinpoint why exactly a fledgling Mr. Bean would place his romantic hopes and dreams in the power of an ebook. Maybe it’s the last resort? The final stop before permanent celibacy is all but confirmed.

However, many guys (and ladies) still believe that the answers to their loneliness are waiting to be found in the digital diarrhea otherwise referred to as “pickup-artist handbooks”. Because getting a date is as simple as practicing steps 1 to 4 until she consents, right?

Without crapping on an entire industry in three short paragraphs, I should confess that I do believe there is SOME good to be taken out of the pick-up artist scene. Many of the laws of attraction you hear preached are actually rooted to self-confidence and overcoming insecurity.

It would be difficult to argue with even the most seasoned pickup sleazeball when it comes to addressing that confidence = everything in the dating game.

But that’s rarely the reason behind these skyrocketing ebook sales. The big hook is the idea of “Attract anybody you desire, it doesn’t matter who! These methods know no bounds!”. Confidence can improve your love life. But there isn’t a secret trick in the world that can make you attractive to a specified individual. Attraction does not work on demand.

Time and time again, I see blog comments from skirt chasers who honestly believe they can win the heart of a girl by following a set formula of steps. It just doesn’t work like that. An ebook can teach you how to become more attractive, generally speaking, but it can never give you the power to change somebody’s will.

So I suppose the question remains, just how many of these pick-up artist followers are actually interested in attracting a single lover? I would not hesitate to guess very few. The appeal behind the industry is power and control. How to attract admiration, lust and attraction from a crowd, without having to give anything in return.

It shouldn’t take an ebook to teach you that the single greatest aid for finding romance is confidence in yourself. This is a state of mind that translates in to attraction through the eyes of others. If you can’t sleep with who you are as a person, don’t expect anybody else to. No matter how many ebooks you buy.

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